the reason male comic book fans work themselves into a frenzied rage over “fake geek girls" is because they think they can’t get a girlfriend because of their love for comic books (a.k.a nerdiness). if they accept that geek girls genuinely love comic books, then they’re left with the cold harsh reality that it’s not their nerdiness that makes them unattractive to women, but the fact that they are misogynistic condescending dickbags who need to be avoided AT ALL COSTS
So I had this dream that may have started with Lulu waking me up but I think that part of it was just my brain being nice to me cos my housemate left at 6:55am (I shudder) and the sound of the door closing startled me, but there was more to it…I only have vague images at the moment but Lahm Chop was knocking around as well and Daniel Craig, bizarrely, except the latter rocked up in this ambling cart smothered in dirt and in the dream I had a notion he was some kind of creepy medieval assassin? All this seemed to take place in what was a mixture of a snowbound castle (everyone was wearing scarves) and a weird continental holiday villa and it was nice but bright cos there were stars and lamps and basically two worlds were colliding and it was just really weird.
I think self-love is important, and that goes (more than) double for women and other marginalized groups. However, I just can’t relate to all the “It’ll get better” rhetoric, and “there’s always a storm before a rainbow”… shit like that.
When I need grounding, when I need to practice mindfulness to get me out of something dark or destructive, those quotes, sayings, contrived images with “reassurances” make me more angry, more discouraged.
I guess it’s because I think a lot of this ignores the root of the problem. And you won’t feel better if you don’t work on it, reach deep within yourself. Sometimes you just don’t feel like loving yourself. Maybe it’s because you’re tired and worn down, maybe it’s for another reason. But I do think asking yourself that question -why- is an important step in truly actualized self-love.